FACT #11 I haven't changed my safe words since I started in 2002.
I keep it simple:
Green - The person is okay or can handle more
Yellow - Slow down or not so hard
Red - Stop
"Yellow" is usually my "Red".
My theory is: If I get to the point that person can't take anymore; The memory of that activity is most likely going to lower the rating of anticipation for future play.
If I push one's boundaries just enough for them to be on the fence of green and yellow; that threshold for pushing that anticipation rating up one or maybe even three notches is much greater.
On a scale of 0 - 10, I have taken a 0 interest to at least a 6.
Couldn't agree with you more. Once you've actually crossed into the red zone it's gone too far, and you can't walk it back. It suggests you aren't reading the other person correctly or simply don't care. Always leave them wanting more. Not that it's a game you should play, but it just shows you can be trusted. Leaving him often times with a willingness and desire to go further next time. To venture into an area, they had no idea they might really enjoy. I most certainly speak from experience on this subject
ReplyDeleteI really don't know what it is. I kind of theorize that a lot of guys see this mainstream porn and how media portray Doms and subs and mimic what they see opposed to taking the time to learn the craft maybe?? I can't figure that one out but.........
DeleteI like how you mentioned "Speaking from experience". I am sure if you had a blog you'd have some juicy tea to spill. Just a sneaky suspicion .
Your suspicions just may be true.
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